Do I have to tell my trauma story in session?
You do not have to tell your trauma story in session. In the beginning, it is helpful to talk about other things unrelated to trauma. The nervous system pattern that is present in reactions to trauma is also present in every other reaction as well. Depending on experience with this work, we often start with a focusing exercise to determine the best ways to settle your system. Session work is so much more about working with biology and physiology than psychology.
But can this work be effective if I don’t tell my story?
Yes. More so actually. The nervous system pattern that is present in reactions to trauma is also present in every other reaction as well. Because of this, it is possible to work with the nervous system pattern that is stuck in so many other experiences. This is important because it makes working with what is stuck in a way that is easy, non-violent, and exquisitely effective. Working with story is important and the best possible outcome is when the biology and physiology supports the reparative nature of this work. Until there is a shift in the pattern that is perpetuated by trauma, often times the retelling of it over and over again further perpetuates and solidifies the pattern.
What are the sessions like?
Sessions are easy. They are meant to be easy and the more easy they are, the more effective. This work is not about how tough one can be. How much pain one can endure. How much awfulness one can feel. Like I’ve said before, the nervous system pattern that is present in reactions to trauma is also present in every other reaction as well. Session work will contain simple conversations, taking pauses at times for the biological and physiological mechanisms of the nervous system, some illuminating on my part towards the biological and physiological components that are present in the session devoted to healing, and space and time for processing. When working over video, it will involved clicking on links to get to a shared, encrypted video page where we will start the call and end the call. Just like the sessions, the computer set up will be easy.